for our children
It’s okay, in Russia from 25 to 50% of the population are children of alcoholics
we are Children who are deprived of their childhood too early
adult children of alcoholics
Adult children of alcoholics (ACAs) are children who grew up in dysfunctional families where one or both parents had an alcohol addiction
20.12.2001
Home work
they often have to:
pull parents out of dangerous situations
look after younger siblings
obtain food independently at an early age
clean the house after parents' drinking bouts
send parents to the hospital after injuries or poisoning
they become parents
to their own parents
this greatly influences their life in the future, forms habits and character traits
They say that the sun shines equally on everyone. I depicted the dispersion of light of an adult child of alcoholics
What is the difference of acoA?
hover over the brain and learn more about each feature
hover over the brain and learn more about each feature
hover over the brain and learn more about each feature
LOW SELF-ESTEEM
SENSE OF HUMOR
LIE
EXCESSIVE LOYALTY
INABILITY TO HAVE FUN
DIFFICULTY IN BEGINNINGS
SEARCH FOR APPROVAL
THE DESIRE TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
This happens because the child missed the period of self-assessment with the help of parents and continued to seek approval with the help of others because he is unable to form self-esteem themself
In childhood, ACA did not have the opportunity to control their lives, so every situation that repeats the helplessness of childhood is painful and a subconscious desire to control everything appears
ACOAs lie even when it is not required and it is not difficult to tell the truth. This is a consequence of the need to hide the real situation in the family from others and from themselfs
In childhood, such a child constantly feels alienated and different from other children, equates the presence of such parents with his own abnormality and feels guilty for this
Trying to hide your wound and pain behind a mask of humor appears as a defense mechanism of the psyche and turns into a habit. Some world-famous comedians are adult children of alcoholics
The internal worldview in childhood was tense, to relax and just play, having lost control was a luxury. The child grows up also with this feeling in the head and spontaneous and irrational decisions are very difficult
The habit of justifying and looking for the good in people who don’t deserve it. It appears because the child had to do the same thing all their childhood — justify mom or dad in their own and others' eyes
It is difficult for ACA to start new things, but it is even more difficult to bring them to the end. This is a consequence of the example of parents who made a lot of promises and did not keep them. The child understood that it is possible not to bring things to the end and nothing will happen because of this
what to do?
understand that everything is fine with you
you were forced to adapt, acquiring these features. You were simply defending yourself.
self-help
contact a psychologist
It is important to choose the right specialist, who has experience working with it.
Start studying the topic, read about ACA. There are several good books and scientific articles that explain in detail the ACoA phenomenon.
meetings aca
There are anonymous aca groups. Understanding that you are not alone in your problem often helps you to breathe a sigh of relief.
you are normal
what to read?
Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love
Lifeskills for Adult Children
Ð’Woititz Janet Geringer
Ð’Woititz Janet Geringer, Alan Garner
Podcast by Dmitry Meleshko (in Russian)
In the video series, Dmitry talks in great detail about the phenomenon of ACoA and how to help yourself
Film "On the Other Side"
A socio-psychological drama that conveys in detail the experiences of a child of alcoholic parents and the mental trauma that does not go away over the years.
What to do when you grew up in a family of alcoholics (in Russian)
podcast by yuliya lelikova
What's different about adults who GREW UP in families with an alcoholic (in Russian)
PODCAST BY ARTEM KARPAVICHUS ABOUT PHYSICAL AND MENTAL DISABILITIES AND THE INFLUENCE OF CODEPENDENT PARENTS ON CHILDREN
what to watch?
author of the site Adult Child of Alcoholics and web-designer
thanks for watching
Storm MAria
When I started talking about my peculiarity with my friends, it turned out that 8 out of 10 people around me were also ACOA. At that moment, I learned about this phenomenon for the first time.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE WITH YOUR PROBLEM, DON'T FEEL SHY TO DISCUSS THE PROBLEM WITH OTHERS
